It’s scary to take the leap into the unknown. It takes a whole bunch of courage to take that first step outside of your comfort zone. However, without a shadow of a doubt, you have the ability to do it because you know there is so much more to life than what you’re allowing yourself to live at the moment. The only thing that’s really holding you back from living your dream life is YOU. In this episode, Kat Nieh shares the first chapter of her book, Dear Workaholics, which is a distillation of her learnings, experiences, and turning them into personal letters dedicated to you. She shares what she has learned in hopes of helping others like you who are looking to recover from burnout and want more out of your lives. This is your first step to doing the things that need to get done towards a better future.
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[ Episode 7 ] 1.1 – Reading My Book
Yay, my book Dear Workaholics is out on Amazon! Even though I wrote a book and I would love for you to read it, I know that it is not always plausible to expect you to sit there quietly, voraciously reading my book. Instead of waiting to launch an audio version of my book, I figured why don’t I read chapters of the book as episodes? Then I can chime in at the end of it to give you additional thoughts or share any additional stories with you that I knew I couldn’t fit in the book anyway.
If I fit everything that I know, all my stories and experiences in this one book, it would turn into a set of encyclopedias. And how many of us actually own encyclopedias anymore? For me, it’s more important to get my message out there, and share it with you all. So here goes! But I want to preface my content by sharing a little bit more about how I structured the book as I carefully considered this as I was writing it. I even cover this at the beginning of my book! Here it is:
“Before we get started, I want to cover how I structured this book. I know you’re busy. I know you have plenty of other things pulling your attention in multiple directions. I’ve broken down this book into ten major parts and the chapters into smaller chunks. It’ll be an easy read for you as I’ve also factored in those who have the tl;dr (too long; didn’t read) mindset. Each time you pick up this book, commit to reading the chapter in its entirety before you put down the book. Also, some chapters have exercises to help you apply these concepts and learnings to your own life. Choose whether you want to work on them as you go or read the entire book through once and then come back to them.”
“I purposely left plenty of open space in this book for you to jot down notes or reflections if you choose to. I also have extended resources on the website www.dearworkaholics.com for you to access and download. This book is an accumulation of some of the modalities, programs, and coaching I’ve received to help me transform my life. This is what worked for me so pull from this book what works for you. Have an open mind, be curious and try on some of these concepts for size. Experiment and tweak things along the way. Promise me, you will keep on going even if you encounter some challenging moments. It is inevitable when you’re changing your life, but know that it’ll all be worth it once you overcome these challenges. Let’s get started.”The only thing holding you back from living your dream life is YOU. Click To Tweet
That’s what I wrote at the beginning of the book to share with you how I structured it. I wrote this book in a very casual tone. This is why the book and the show are called Dear Workaholics, because these are truly my messages to you. I wanted it to be personal. I want to connect with you and share who I am. I want to share what I’ve learned in hopes of helping others like you who are going through something similar but didn’t have some to turn to for support or guidance. Something else I added is at the beginning of each part, I start with a letter and here is a letter for part one.
“Dear Workaholics, this book is my personal letter to you. We know each other pretty well. I get you, your overall pains, wants, desires and challenges. Your passion and drive inspire me more than you know. For now, I want to tell you how awesome you are. I think you’re awesome and it’s not just because I’m buttering up for the hard part of this letter. Here’s why I think you’re awesome: You think of everything. You take care of everything. You don’t give up. You weren’t afraid to jump in there and do the thing that needs to get done. You work hard towards a better future and you always pushed yourself to do your best.”
“These are just a few of your best qualities that I hope you see in yourself. Without you, the world wouldn’t be where it is. All that you’ve accomplished has had a rippling impact around you. It is your work that has made the world a far better place and for that, I am truly grateful. Here’s where the inevitable ‘but’ comes in. Don’t worry. I’m not asking you to stop being your awesome self, because that is who brings so much value to not only your life but also the lives of others. The ‘but’ of the whole thing is that you have been neglecting some of your own needs and that is not what I’m okay with. I want so much more for you. You deserve more for all you’ve done. If you’re going to work so hard I also want you to work on things that fuel your soul. I want you to work for adventure. I want you to work for love. I want you to work for relaxation. I want you to work for happiness. I want you to work for personal fulfillment. I want you to work for an even greater impact that I know you could have on this world.”
“I know it’s scary to leap into the unknown. I know it takes a whole bunch of courage to take that first step outside of your comfort zone. I know without a shadow of a doubt that you have the ability to do it because you know there are so much more to life than what you’re allowing yourself to live at the moment. Even if it’s something you might not want to know, my dear workaholics, the only thing holding you back from living your dream life is you. If you don’t change, your world will keep spinning in the same spot. You’ll spend years of your life wasting your awesomeness working too many hours for someone or something else. This doesn’t mean that who or what you’re working for hasn’t been great. It just means it’s time for you to drop some of those unnecessary weights you’ve been shouldering for way too long. It’s time for you to bring the focus back to you. You’ve got this. Sincerely, Kat.”
That is a letter for part one. The reason why I wrote this is because I wanted to share that I believe in you, I see you, and I recognize that you are working so hard to make an impact around you no matter how big or small it is. Sometimes we need to be recognized for it, hear it and also know that someone believes in you because I know that’s what I needed when I started on this journey. That is the underlying thread that holds this book together is to know that I believe in you and I know that you are capable of changing your life, but you have to make the decision to do it.
“Chapter 1.1 – If I can do it, you can do it, too.”
“You’re probably wondering who I am and what has led me to where I am and even write this book for you, my fellow workaholics, in the first place. Let me take you through my story briefly so you can get to know me a little better. Do take notice and see what parts resonate with you too. Once upon a time I sat there dumbfounded, burned out and lost. I wondered how I got here. When I made the decision to leave my job, I faced a lot of fears. The fears of the unknown, judgment, financial instability, regret, where my future was headed and even fears that I can’t even recall. Not only fear, but I also felt guilt, shame, and sadness because I judged myself for not being strong enough to handle all the stress and growing pains our company was facing. I felt like I disappointed myself, my team, my coworkers, my company and even my family.”
“I knew it was time for me to part ways. I couldn’t hold onto the glorious, memorable earlier years anymore. I’ve given so much to them already and it was time to give to someone else, myself. Why? Because my soul was dying a slow death on the inside. I knew there was so much more to life than what I had. My body was telling me I had been neglecting my own needs for too long. I wanted to make a bigger impact on the world. I’m not saying that you need to leave your job as well to find happiness. What worked for me may not work for you. What I’m saying is you need to figure out what you have to do to achieve fulfillment and experience joy in your life. I did what I had to do and what that exactly looks like for you is unique to you.”
“All the choices I’ve made here had led me to be exactly where I need to be to achieve the things I want to do. I’m not the same Kat I was when I left my job. I am now so much more because I made a difficult decision to step away from the life I knew so well. I’m no longer burnt out. I found myself again. I rightfully reclaimed my life and reunited my passion. I’ve grown so much that I am a better version of myself. I know I could do so much more for this world from where I am now than where I was before. More importantly, I am living my life for me and no one else. You can do your version of all this, too.
This is just the beginning for me. There’s so much more I want to learn through courses and seek out for mentors. I strive to be better. I work on living each day with intention. I don’t need to wait for these things to happen before moving forward.”
“As I grow and learn more, I inevitably evolve and so will my work. The big overarching message of this whole book is to not wait until later. Trust me, anything is possible. I’m sharing my journey with you and the hope that it will inspire you to break free from the societal status quo and discover your path. We are not carbon copies of each other. We are not victims of our situations. We are the masters of our own lives. Take control of your own life. Live the life you’ve always wanted. It’s never too late. Choose now.”
Most of the chapters are fairly short but, don’t worry, I packed them with plenty of great content as well. Through sharing my stories, you get a glimpse into my head and what I went through. This book was one of the first steps for me to be more vulnerable, openly talking about my experience, and sharing what I’ve learned through my development journey.
It was scary taking that step writing my book and also being here creating this show. I realize that if I don’t share my stories, how do other people know? If I don’t share what I’ve learned, what if something I know or figured out could make a difference in another person’s life? Maybe it’s yours. This is just the beginning and there’s much more to come. Stay tuned for another reading of a chapter from my book, Dear Workaholics.
Until then, you got this. I’m here with you.
If you liked what I’ve written or read of what’s in my book and you want to get your own copy digest all these contents visually or quicker, head on over to Amazon by clicking the link below. You can also type in the search bar “Dear Workaholics” and add to your cart the paperback or Kindle version to purchase your very own. Feel free to share this book or this episode with your fellow workaholics. I would appreciate it if you could leave me a rating and review on Apple Podcast as well. Thank you so much! Until next time.