Yup, “KIT” stands for “keep in touch”
(Do they still write those in high school yearbooks nowadays? It’s been a while…)

Looking up through the center of the Anthony Family Trust Carillon in the Garvan Woodland Gardens in Hot Springs, Arkansas. ©kitwithkat

Work is easy. It’s predictable. It’s familiar. You know what you need to do to achieve success. It’s a skillset you’ve honed so well that it comes naturally to you now. Because it became easy, you start juggling more and more to prove to yourself and others that you are highly capable. It grows your confidence, which then fuels your ego and pride. The challenge becomes your addiction. You have your blinders on. You don’t see anything but the work you have to do. Nothing else matters.

So my question to you is… what is that void you’ve been trying so hard to fill or even avoid?

What are you trying to run away from? Work is easy, so you dive all in to avoid dealing with this void. What is it about this void that scares you so much that you rather focus on the easiest thing for you to grasp even though it’s completely burning you out?

This is how your life becomes unbalanced. The emphasis is placed completely on work—the part you can understand so well—that the other parts of your life seem nonexistent.

It’s time to take a look at the void. I know it’s scary. It’s unknown. You’ve been running away from it for so long that you don’t even know where to start. I’m here with you. 

You know that work can never fill that void. It’s like putting a round peg in a square hole. Even if you shave down the sides of the round peg to fit into the square hole, there will still be unfilled gaps.

You have to find the proper round peg, no matter how difficult it seems. You know it’ll be absolutely rewarding filling the entire board of life with all the proper pieces in place. That’s how you live your dream life. That’s how you feel complete. It’s not by forcing things that aren’t meant to be or pretending those voids aren’t there.

So how do you find the proper round peg?

  • First, you have to stop this incessant, unhealthy insanity. You have to realize this isn’t what your life should look like.
  • Take a step back. Breathe. 
  • Take a look at what is missing from your life that you really wanted? What were you really working so hard to achieve? When did you lose your way? 
  • Know that you can change your choices going forward, and refocus your priority on what truly matters to you. It’s never too late. Even if it seems too late, things can be remedied. Sure, it will take effort, but if it’s truly what you value or want, the fight for it would be worth all the effort, right?

When you refocus all that determined ambition towards your true priorities, you know you’ll be able to achieve it. Nothing could stop you then. Only you can… if you never even chose to fight for it in the first place.